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As a reader I have heard all kinds of questions throughout my career. But there is one question most people never think to ask. That question is, “how can I get the most out of my reading”. The answer is really quite simple; the secret is in the way you ask your questions. As a reader my job is to give you the information that you are seeking. For some people that means asking a direct question and for others that means asking a cover question and still there are others who just say tell me what you see. When people are direct with me I can be direct back with them. When people ask me a cover question they are usually too embarrassed or have too much anxiety around the subject. For example they might ask, “Tell me about my relationship”. The question underneath is, “I’ve been married for 22 years my kids are grown should I still be with this person”. As a reader I have no judgments on your questions. Believe me there are many people that came before you and asked questions they also felt uncomfortable with. And finally there are the people who say tell me what you see. This question usually breaks down into one of two categories. First, I don’t know if you can do this so I’ll be testing you. This is not the best idea considering how much money you’re spending for a reading. Second asking what the reader sees is a wonderful way to wind up the reading. This gives the reader the opportunity to give you information that can be pertinent to your situation. Below are a couple of examples of how readings can be shaped and how you can ask a better question.
1. Good Question: Tell me about my relationship.
2. Better Question: how do I get the relationship I’ve always wanted with the person I’m with?
3. Very Good Question: What are the strengths and weaknesses within my relationship and what are the outside factors that affect it and what can I do as an individual to make my relationship the best it can be.
1. Good Question: tell me about a person who passed away.
2. Better Question: how do I create contact with a person that has passed away?
3. Very Good Question: help me create a connection with a person that has passed away so that I can connect with them to receive the wisdom and understanding I need to move forward in my life.
*most people that are passed over are in a far better place than we are. Asking what you can do to help them will not be as effective in the healing/grieving process as asking what they can do to help you.
1. Good Question: what should I do about my work?
2. Better Question: what would make me happy and successful around my work?
3. Very Good Question: as a person who has unique and individual talent how can I share these talents and create a life of fulfillment through an expression of my unique abilities.
As you can see each question gets a little bit more in depth. With each more in-depth question you’re not giving any information away to the reader. You’re only clarifying what you’re looking to find. Remember, it is the job of the reader to serve you and not tell you the difference between good and bad and right and wrong. You are an adult you should know that by now. Since everyone is different it follows that the things that people would want to know would also be different. So please note that this information is there for you. This information does not come from the reader; it only comes through the reader. What you do with the information that you receive is in the end what is truly most important. As always if you have any questions please feel free to contact me.